Workplace Bullying My Experience: Article 1

Stress in the workplace is definitely bad for your health, both mental and physical. I have experienced a great deal of stress while working in the field of healthcare with the elderly. As a matter of fact, I am no longer employed in this field due to how strongly I feel about this issue.

In my personal experience, a lot of back stabbing, bullying, and clicks exist when there is no solid management in place. I worked with 3 women who tended to support one another’s views and they each discussed me which resulted in a consequent call into the office and what I call verbal attacks to my character. I was criticized, put down and then told, but you do “have good qualities.” I’m not sure what look was on my face that got them to tell me this but I am sure it probably was a calm stare or the look of someone about to give up.

I was written up twice within the last month for ludicrous things and was very calm yet irate inside when I told my boss she didn’t have to give me the second one to look at. In place of acknowledging the warning I told her, “I quit.” Well, her mouth dropped open and she didn’t know what to say…..likely so, because she probably felt I would never quit!!

I signed the warning stating that I did not agree with the warning and I no longer wanted my job.

Bullying in the workplace is way too prevalent. I will continue this story in another article.

As always, thank you for reading! Have an awesome day!

Kris

Too Much Work: Not enough Time or Money

I felt the need to write this article to address the workplace today. The trend seems to be less employees more workload. The job must pay the same amount of work that would’ve been done years ago by several people. Now that work is being done by one or two people. My brother-in-law works at Walmart and they lost six people. This seems to be a trend in today’s world to get it done faster more efficiently better and completed. More pay does not seem to accompany us. It’s the idea of efficiency and cost versus labor. People in the deli where he works and they were not replaced the others were simply given a heavier workload and more hours. He frequently stays late because someone called in sick or someone needs to leave early or the work isn’t done.

In my own job, I recently worked a 16 hour day because we had a snowstorm, and there were only I and one other girl who could make it into town to work. I wasn’t asked if I wanted to work a 16 hour shift I was told by my boss I would do this. At first I wasn’t real thrilled but I got through that 16 hour shift and I’m glad I have those hours. At my job again the trend fence to be not hiring more employees but giving those employees they have more hours without them requesting them. They’re cutting food Goss out of the budget, stressing time and and efficiency of time. A coworker of mine said they’re really taking this way too serious they need to just mellow out. Dollar signs $ seem to lead in my job more than the quality I provide.

It is common for me to be called into the office because my work is not done sooner than it is even those then the reason wall-mounted time. We had a recent visit from the president of our company who was just thoroughly disgusted with the amount of time “being wasted .” I work for the sale of nine people and we take care of 13 people. There’s nine people cover three shifts 2 during the morning, two on second shift and the  and one at night. Overworked, underpaid, but enjoy our elderly residents so that keeps most of us at our job.

More work, less pay and more expectations seem to be the friend in our world today for employment. Do you experience the same thing in your job?

have an awsome day!

Kris

Our Teenagers Today

Are teenagers today live in a different world than when I was born. I am engine if you’re reading this a living to different world than you were born to. A cell phone is a requirement for a teenager and iPad is common for them to have an privileges are rights that they are allowed and most households. Teens are getting into trouble at younger ages progressively. It is not uncommon for a 16-year-old to be out at 2 a.m. walking the streets just because here she can get away with it. In the area that I live in, we have a 10 o’clock curfew. I live in a town of 10,000 and they reinforce that curfew for teenagers, in an effort to avoid troublesome behavior.

I grew up in the town of Dubuque Iowa and my sister still lives there. Dubuque has a population of about 70,000 people total. Drug deals going on day and night and just about any area of the town. Marijuana and any other drug can be purchased just running time of day. Drugs are purchased for $50 and transported to Chicago and sold for $500. The drug trade is very lucrative and goes on right under the eyes of those who are against drugs. Pretty much any drug is accessible.

I want to deviate for a moment from the subject we are on. I have a niece who lives in Dubuque and is now in foster care. She has done marijuana, acid, a mix of pills including ADHD medicine and others, alcohol and other drugs that I probably don’t even know what they are, only to get a high. She frequently brags about the drug she has done. She has stolen medicine from those close to her. She stole heart medicine from her foster mom and didn’t think there was anything wrong with it. Now I haven’t told you yet, that she is only 15 years old. She is skipping classes leaving school to go and drink alcohol, do marijuana and returning to school. Her boyfriend just got kicked out of school due to skipping school. The high school has given up on giving fines or other punishment for not attending school because it is so prevalent. They no longer issue fines for truancy or other punishment because there are so many students skipping school they couldn’t manage it all. It is discouraging to me to hear this. While getting kicked out of school is not a reward, it’s not a way to enforce an education an education and a good life. In my experience truancy only leads to more harmful behavior. My niece went from being in fashion shows, karate, and color-guard to skipping school not turning in homework and really not caring about school. It’s hard to sit back and watch this. She was so successful at what she did. Everything she did she did to perfection. It’s sad to see her give up like this. She does not want to come home to my sister’s house because she would no longer have access to the drugs of her choice and her boyfriend who does drugs and is not at school anymore.

While I will never know what drove her to do drugs and want to feel a high away from our world and problems, I will always wish that I could help her. I will do my best to share my sister’s pain as she waits for her daughter to want to come home. It’s been six months now and she claims that she was abused horribly by my sister and she’s afraid to be in the house with her. The claims she’s making her horrendous. But there’s nothing we can do but listen to her. Social services or family services is involved and keeps trying different strategies to try and help her. So far nothing has been successful.

What has happened to her teens up today? These are a few thoughts for you to ponder. Why is education such a bad subject to some of them? Maybe you will find answers to these in your life. Maybe not.

Have an awsome day!
Kris

Violence In Our World Today

Do we really need to respond to things with violence? It seems that across the world when anything bad happens violence breaks out. Many people are killed her and her and it seems that a human life is a luxury. To be free is a wonderful thing in life. We as well as other countries has spent so much money being at war with others whether it is a full blown out war or hostages being taken the violence just keeps going on. My question is where’s the end? When does the violence and and the peace begin? Just a few months ago people from my church and from work both predicted we would have violence across the world someday soon. One of the church members said that we have taking God out of the schools and out of our world and that we must incorporate God back into things establish world peace. I agree with her. There is so much hatred follows by violence in our world. How many more people have to be killed for us to stop being violent?

World peace would be a dream come true.

Have A great day!
Kris

My Prayer For Our World

Dear God,

Help us to end the violence that exists in our world.
Humble us so that we may appreciate what we have in our lives. Freedom no longer is a common thing but an option and an opportunity. People or, like myself are being taken hostage and held by those who possess violent ideas and the will to carry them out. Or bring peace to our world in a world that’s going through chaos. We are lucky to have our families and our friends and feel safe. Even though the violence it’s going on in other countries feels like it’s a world away it really is closer that we believe. Instone us a will to be kind to others no matter what they might do to us. And should forgive those who wronged us. Opus to forgive those who hurt us maybe intentionally or otherwise. Forgiveness will free us and through the person that hurt us. Lord thank you for all the blessings you’ve given us. Help us to act and peaceful ways in our world and we kind to others.
Amen

Have a great day!
Kris

Perfection: A Waste of Energy?

Our society seems to be one of perfection. If you haven’t done a perfect job, you have failed. I was raised in a home where my mother wanted everything to be perfect and my dad was a little bit more laid-back. I never saw the meaning and perfection or the need for it. It seemed like so much energy was wasted on trying to be perfect. I will never forget the time my dad came home with bread and milk like mom told him too. She was upset because he had bought the wrong brand of bread and milk and she had written down the brand that she wanted him to buy. I feel bad for dad because he had done what you asked and who cares what brand it was?

It was that perfection that was instilled in me that made it hard to be myself part of my life. I found myself striving to be perfect in every way. If I had a bad hair day it was a bad day.

Each holiday we were taking to buy a new dress shoes new jewelry and we got a perm or a haircut so we would look great for the holiday. Now don’t get me wrong here, I do appreciate my parents effort and taking care of me and making sure that I looked good and was cared for. But, this also put pressure on me to be perfect.

I just want to be a teenager like the other kids. Some days I didn’t like myself because I wasn’t perfect. I well and my 20’s and 30’s and still find myself struggling with that from time to time and I am 43 years old.

My question to you is is perfection really that important? Would you rather be just normal instead of perfect? I know I would.

Have an awsome day!
Kris

Perspectives on the Elderly

I decided it was time for me to sit down and really reflect on the knowledge of life I gain from working with the elderly.

First of all, I need to tell you that the typical elderly person I work with is in their 90’s, has grown up working hard…many of them have grown up during the depression and most deal with some degree of dementia. I work with 14 people who deal with dementia and they are all very special in their own way. Over the year I have worked with them, I have gained quite the perspective on life. Now, with this, as you might have already imagined, stress comes along with working with these wonderful people. Patience is a requirement, not an option.

One of my favorite people, June,  is 95 years old and can’t remember when her birthday is, which is ironic because in 2014 she remembered her birthday, when it was and how old she turned. This information has since escaped her. This shows one how rapidly dementia can progress. My birthday falls on the same weekend as her birthday, so I know it is something I will never forget.

Gina, is 92, and has had four falls in the last week. Each fall happens because doesn’t feel that she is strong enough to do things without her walker, but does them anyway, on her own. She is a dear soul but just can’t remember that walker, again due to dementia. She reads all the newspaper there is, but doesn’t retain much of the information she reads.

With each of the elderly people I work with, the common phrase is, “I don’t want to fall, don’t let me fall.” Once they have experienced a fall, it is a reality this could happen again and a very real fear.

Sometimes I think to myself, “Why are you going to fall every time you get up up?” Of course, I would never say this out loud as it is a very real fear for them as they a frail. But, sometimetimes thinking about a fall leads to one as they are pre-occupied with what MIGHT happen and then it does.

Anyway, I wanted to share some of what I learn when I work with the elderly people who are so dear!

Have a great day!

Kris

Music As A Stress Reliever

These days in our fast paced world, it doesn’t take much to stress us out. It takes time to try to sift through the stress and even more time to distress. In my research I found an awesome website that discusses how music can reduce your stress level. The website is called, “Psych Central.” I encourage you to visit this website~!

I will highlight some of the key points I found to be useful.

1. Music has a soothing power of music and it has a unique link to our emotions, so can be an extremely effective stress management tool.

2.  Also, listening to music can have a tremendously relaxing effect on our minds and bodies, especially slow, quiet classical music. This type of music can have a beneficial effect on our physiological functions, slowing the pulse and heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and decreasing the levels of stress hormones.

3.  As music can absorb our attention, it acts as a distraction at the same time it helps to explore emotions. This means it can be a great aid to meditation, helping to prevent the mind wandering.4

4.  Musical preference varies widely between individuals, so only you can decide what you like and what is suitable for each mood. But even if you don’t usually listen to classical music it may be worth giving it a try when selecting the most calming music.

5. When people are very stressed, there is a tendency to avoid actively listening to music. Perhaps it feels like a waste of time, not helping to achieve anything. But as we know, productivity increases when stress is reduced, so this is another area where you can gain vast rewards. It just takes a small effort to begin with.

6.  To incorporate music into a busy life, try playing CDs in the car, or put the radio on when in the bath or shower. Take portable music with you when walking the dog, or put the stereo on instead of the TV.

7.  Singing along can also be a great release of tension, and karaoke is very enjoyable for some extroverts! Calming music before bedtime promotes peace and relaxation and helps to induce sleep.

When you get stressed, I hope you refer back to this article or the website the insight came from.

Have an awesome day!

Kris

I Let You Go

After twelve years together,

you said you were bored

and that you didn’t love me anymore.

You wanted your freedom back,

but I didn’t take it away from you.

You took it away from yourself

and immersed yourself in work and addictions.

I would never take anything from you,

I only gave to you, unconditionally

like I believe a partner should.

I couldn’t make your boredom go away.

I couldn’t hold you back from

what you were missing in life.

It’s kind of ironic that you miss me now

I guess the reason you left

wasn’t that wonderful after all.

It Was Over

I had no idea

that you were so unhappy

in our marriage.

But I realized this fact

when all that was left in your closet

was one shirt, for me to remember you by.

Tears streamed down my face

when I called you and you said,

“It’s over, we’re done and I just finished moving out.”

I begged you to give us a chance.

You kept telling me that it was over

And that you would hang up if I didn’t stop

begging you not to let go.

You seemed so cold, so heartless.

I couldn’t believe the words I was hearing.

It was over between us.

I had to find a way to pick up the pieces and move on.